I’ll give a perspective from the other end of the continuum. I feel lucky if I can spend 15 minutes on Skritter a day. Some weeks (like the past two), I’ve had projects due at work which have consumed a lot of normally-free after-work time and my Skritter time has been zero for that duration. Add to this that my daughter has just started soccer for the season, which takes out a lot of normally-free weekend time.
So, I have 1300+ reviews built up in my queue, and I’m not sure if I’ll be able to get to it this week. I did about 5 minutes last night, but was so distracted by other things that I couldn’t get into the “Skritter-zone” and stopped doing the reviews.
And based on this, I have two possible responses: a) I could let myself get upset/angry/disappointed; or b) I could recognize that my available time will ebb and flow and give myself space to learn when I can direct my full-focus to my learning.
The former response means that I beat myself up over missing a self-imposed, artifical deadline. The latter means I recognize that learning Chinese is a choice for myself and that I can be appreciative of having it available to me as an option in my life.
I understand and agree that goals are important and it’s equally important to practice the discipline to meet the goals. However, at the same time, it’s critical to recognize that “life” is going to interject with unplanned tasks that need to be done, and these task need to take priority.
Skritter for me is a choice…an option…a fun “addition” to my life. I don’t want to make Skritter a “job”.
I have an engineering job for work that requires an intense amount of focus. I have a 2nd job as a dad to two pre-teen kids. In the equation for work-life balance, Skritter time is enjoyable “noise” on top of the signal of everything else that is going on. So, if I get to it, that’s great. But if I don’t, I’ll enjoy the break and come back to it reinvigorated.
Do I fall back a little bit in my “progress”? Sure. But every life-skill and learning only is maintained by practice, and we have to make way in our life for the priorities. This means that other things are going to fall by the wayside…and this is the NORMAL course of things…the ebb and flow. Holding rigid to a fixed mindset that I “have” to hit this goal is unhelpful.
For example, this weekend I went rollerblading for the first time in 5 years. My body “remembered” what to do, but my muscles were too weak to hit the level of performance at which I used to be able to skate. I’d argue it’s counterproductive to beat myself up over that loss of fitness. Instead, I choose to cultivate a mindset where I enjoy the opportunity to re-experience something that I find fun.
TL/DR: Enjoy the journey, not the destination.